Communication Issues in Marriage

One of the things I find myself saying the most to people who are looking for help with communication barriers in their marriage is “assume the best of each other”. The message sent is not always the message received and it’s easy to assume negative qualities of your spouse when you are angry or when there are communication breakdowns. Often this is because of each individual’s own insecurities or past experiences and doesn’t actually reflect the intentions of their spouse. (Note: this does not apply in abusive relationships). It’s helpful to remember that you love, respect, and value this person enough to be married to them and before you ever experienced these struggles with communication in your marriage, there was a person you met and fell in love with for a reason. That person also loves, respects, and values you enough to be married to you and work through the hard things because of the love that you have built together—even when communication breakdowns make it not feel that way. So when those moments come when you are angry and you think the worst, remind yourself that the message sent is not always the message received and choose to assume the best of each other.

If you’d like to discuss how you can communicate more effectively in your own marriage, you can call 601-708-9558 to schedule an appointment. I provide secure face to face online therapy sessions throughout the state of Mississippi at times that are perfect for after work.

*This post is intended for married couples struggling with communication and should not be considered an alternative to professional therapy. It is not intended for anyone in an abusive relationship. If you or someone you know is in an abusive situation, please seek the help you need in order to stay safe.